Being the oldest of five means I get asked a lot of life questions by my siblings. Sometimes about friendship. Whether it means anything if you have many or few friends. Sometimes about love 😉 What to do when you want to start dating before your parents want you to 👿 But with the school year back around again, “How do I choose what to be when I grow up?” is the most popular. So, let’s talk about career advice.
To our baby brothers and sisters,
Lifestyle > Profession
Most likely, you’re feeling pressured to choose the job you’re going to do for the rest of your life. Yes, you know you can change your mind but you don’t really want to. I mean, school’s expensive and what’s with homework? Well let me tell you, you’re going about it totally wrong. It’s about this mindset 🙂
What’s actually important to consider is what kind of lifestyle you want to live.
Say you want to have a family. Consider whether a certain profession would allow you to have the work-life balance that you want. If you’re a career woman that loves constant challenge, will your profession allow you to move up or will you be forced to stay in the same position? Or say you love routine, will your career give you that or will you be working inconsistent hours at odd times of the day?
(From there, choose a profession based on other elements like education needed, interest and skill.)
Sometimes people don’t know what they want. Try asking yourself what you don’t want 😉
Passion vs. Comfortable Living
First, these two things are not mutually exclusive. You can have both but, like anything that’s worth it, it takes work – and often compromise. Let’s take blogging, for example. It’ll take time to get enough influence to profit from it – if at all. In the meantime, you’ll have to work – possibly at a job you don’t like.
On the other hand, some end up in less than favourable conditions early on for passion. Garance Dore, possibly the woman that started the blogging movement, left school in her late 20s (disappointing her mother), lived on little, and taught herself to be the successful illustrator that she is today 🙂
Lastly, passion doesn’t have to exist within your job. It would just be super convenient. Some people might enjoy their work and not feel passionate about it. To them, work may just be a means to do things they enjoy. As long as there’s something in your life that makes you feel alive, I think that’s fulfilling.
What Following Your Dream Looks Like
I think people often connect the phrase, “Follow your dream/passion/heart,” to unconventional jobs like social influencer, actor, writer, YouTuber etc. I also find that people often associate 9-5 jobs with slaving away at a company that you hate. Both of which are not absolute truths and I’ll tell you why 👿
Following your dream will look different from person to person depending on their priorities and circumstances. I have a friend who has been in school 5-ever and I bet he’s been asked why he does it. Probably because he wants to be a doctor so bad he’ll go through all the school he needs.
Another friend quit his job at a large respectable company to pursue his dream of being a radio broadcaster. People probably asked him why he did that. Probably because that’s his dream 🙂
An unconventional dream is no better than a conventional one and v.v. A dream is only worthwhile if it’s worthwhile to you. There’s no universal best dream or lifestyle. Only the best lifestyle for you.
Although I was inspired by my siblings to write this post, this advice can really apply to anyone at a crossroad in their life. I really hope this post can give you perspective on career decisions you might have to make. Decisions are all about priorities and the priority in your life should be what’s important for you.
What career advice would you give your sibling, dear friend, or loved one?
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